How does one argue with an 87 year old woman who claims she forgets nothing when she forgets so much? It isn't really that you want to argue it is more that you want to help so that next time things might go a little more smoothly. For instance, last year she forgot her glasses when she came north. She doesn't remember that she forgot...so when we mention that she needs to make a list of things to bring, she gets all worked up.
We try to just mention that a list would make things easier but she then insists that she has been coming north for years and has never forgotten a thing. Not only that but then it gets into other things totally unrelated. Then, it becomes, a shouting match between Bob and Betty. He really does not have a lot of patience and you NEED, A LOT!
I just have a headache. I tried to mention that she is getting angry at herself for things that she should not worry about. I remind her that her brothers would not even THINK about getting mad because NONE of this would matter to them. Then she mentions her fear. I think talking a bit about the fear is good for her. She does know that her brothers have Alzheimer's and she of course worries that it may strike her. We feel that it has, but there is no diagnosis yet. Wish there were a miracle drug for this dread disease.